IAC මාස්ටර්ස් සමඟ Viking එකෙක් පුහුණු කිරීම

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IAC මාස්ටර්ස් සමඟ Viking එකෙක් පුහුණු කිරීම
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ඩේවිඩ් පැපිනි

Like most parents, I am exposed to a lot of cartoon movies (most of them full
of cleverly engineered cross-generational stimuli and layers) and also repeatedly
to the same one, with a frequency inversely proportional to the child’s
age.

When an adult starts watching the same cartoon for the nth time, he or she
can react in two ways: blankly staring at the video letting his or her mind
wander to a more interesting place or trying to consciously watch the movie,
paying attention to details escaped in the first nth minus one session.

Or the reactions can mix, and that’s what happened to me while watching
a dialog between two young Vikings, Astrid and Hiccup, in the movie-cartoon
How to Train your Dragon. The dialog lasts for one minute and five seconds,
and the last time I watched it I suddenly realized I was watching a masterful
and efficient coaching session, with Astrid as the coach and Hiccup as the client.
The relationship between the two is already well established, but it is the
first time in the movie that Astrid purposefully tries to help Hiccup. Here
is the dialogue with my commentary and the corresponding IAC Masteries:

සංවාදයක්

IAC
Mastery and Comments

Astrid:
"It’s a mess."

#5
ප්රකාශ කරයි
. The coach starts with a reality check, emotionally
participating (through her facial expression and tone of voice) but without
making discounts on reality. Tone is appropriate for the relationship
that exists between the two and their cultural setting as Vikings.

Astrid:
"You must feel horrible. You’ve lost everything: your father,
your tribe, your best friend."

#4
වර්තමානයේ සැකසුම් කිරීම
. The coach challenges the client sentiments
("must" is a little strong, but it is culturally appropriate,
they are Vikings, client does not expect to be asked "how do you
feel" and in general he does not expect his sentiments to be acknowledged,
so Astrid’s choice to acknowledge them in an authoritative and challenging
manner is a good balance between acknowledging emotions and respecting
cultural mind frame) and further details the reality check.

Hiccup:
"Thank you for summing that up."

#3
ඊට ඇහුම්කන් දෙන්න
: The client feels acknowledged and validated
in the messy situation, and bitterly acknowledges that the coach summarized
the tough reality.

Hiccup:
"Why couldn’t I have killed that dragon when I found him in
the woods? Would have been better for everyone."

#3
ඊට ඇහුම්කන් දෙන්න
. The client willingly shares his concern, fears
and doubt. He is asking himself the questions. The coach's reality check
allows the client to raise questions about what he did, about the past.
Establishing a relationship of trust.

Astrid:
"Yep. The rest of us would’ve done it."

#2
ගනුදෙනුකරුගේ විභවය හඳුනාගැනීම, තහවුරු කිරීම හා පුළුල් කිරීම
.
The coach masterfully acknowledges the client's judgment and uses it to
underline the client's uniqueness.

Astrid:
"So why didn’t you?"

#1
Establishing a relationship of trust
සහ #2 Perceiving,
affirming and expanding the client’s potential
. The coach
challenges the client, following the client's logic and at the same time
reinforcing the client's individuality.

Hiccup:
"…"

#3
ඊට ඇහුම්කන් දෙන්න
: The coach allows some silence before asking
again. The client starts working on the answer, showing that the coach's
questions are working as a command to explore.

Astrid:
"Why didn’t you?"

#1
Establishing a relationship of trust
සහ #6 පැහැදිලි කිරීම.
The coach identifies the most important issue, uncovering the unknown
and insistently keeping the client on point.

Hiccup:"
I don’t know. I couldn’t."

#3
ඊට ඇහුම්කන් දෙන්න
. The client is struggling to find an answer,
and comes out with two disempowering negations, avoiding accountability.

Astrid:
"That’s not an answer."

#3
ඊට ඇහුම්කන් දෙන්න
: The coach keeps the client focused and does
not collude with him.

Hiccup:
"Why is this so important to you all of a sudden?"

#5
ප්රකාශ කරයි
. The client reacts by blaming the coach (in the tone
of voice) and again trying to put responsibility (response-ability, the
ability to respond) on the coach.

Astrid:
"Because I want to remember what you say right now."

#2
ගනුදෙනුකරුගේ විභවය හඳුනාගැනීම, තහවුරු කිරීම හා පුළුල් කිරීම
.
The coach declares her commitment to the client's success, and takes responsibility
for her role as a witness to his success or failure.

Hiccup:"
For the love of… I was a coward. I was weak. I wouldn’t kill
a dragon."

#1
Establishing a relationship of trust
. The client continues to
avoid accountability by blaming (this time himself).

Astrid:
"You said 'wouldn’t' that time."

#3
ඊට ඇහුම්කන් දෙන්න
. The coach gives her full attention to the
words and nuances. She sticks to what and how the client tells the story,
catches the verb "wouldn’t" and focuses the client on
the difference between feeling non-capable (couldn’t) and feeling
he made a choice (wouldn’t).

Hiccup:
"Whatever! I wouldn’t! Three hundred years and I’m the
first Viking who wouldn’t kill a dragon."

#1
Establishing a relationship of trust
. The client freely expresses
his emotions, acknowledging the difference between could and would and
reframing the experience by incorporating the fact that he wanted to behave
differently. Silence indicates that client and coach are both working
to deepen their mutual understanding of the situation.

Astrid:
"First to ride one, though. So?"

#2
Perceiving , affirming and expanding the client’s potential,
#7 සේවාලාභියාට පැහැදිලි චේතනාවක් තැබීමට හා තබාගැනීමට උපකාර කිරීම
සහ
#8 ආරාධනා කිරීම. The coach challenges the limiting
beliefs of what a Viking should do, to recognize a wider range of possibilities
and transcend barriers. The coach leverages the idea of difference and
adds one that is positive and rewarding for the client.

Hiccup:
"I wouldn’t kill him because he looked as frightened as I was.
I looked at him and I saw myself."

#1
Establishing a relationship of trust
. The client has an insight
and acknowledges his emotions.

Astrid:
"I bet he’s really frightened now. What are you going to do
about it?"

#2
ගනුදෙනුකරුගේ විභවය හඳුනාගැනීම, තහවුරු කිරීම හා පුළුල් කිරීම
.
The coach expands the client vision to include the dragon and how the
dragon feels, and then calls the client to action.

Hiccup:
"Ehh. Probably something stupid."

#7
Helping the client to set and keep clear intentions
: The client
makes a timid move toward action, but then negatively connotes it with
his words, while his body language says he is starting to see a possibility.

Astrid:
"Good, but you’ve already done that."

#7
Helping the client to set and keep clear intentions, #8 Inviting possibility

සහ #6 පැහැදිලි කිරීම. The coach acknowledges the client
resolution but pushes the client to look for excellence in stupidity,
to try something new and move further. The coach does not judge the value
of calling the move stupid, but simply leverages it to encourage the client
to augment what he is really capable of.

Hiccup:
"Then something crazy."

#7
Helping the client to set and keep clear intentions
සහ #6
පැහැදිලි කිරීම
. The client gets the hint, resolves to action and
කොළ.

Astrid:
"That’s more like it."

#7
Helping the client to set and keep clear intentions
සහ #2
ගනුදෙනුකරුගේ විභවය හඳුනාගැනීම, තහවුරු කිරීම හා පුළුල් කිරීම
.
The client is more excited about the future, the client has a realization
that removes a mental obstacle, the client is engaged and excited about
new direction. The coach acknowledges that the client made a shift and
is ready to act at his maximum potential, moving beyond his current paradigms.

When I started the IAC certification process I thought that showing all nine
masteries in half an hour would be nearly impossible. Then I started practicing
(which I still am), signed my learning agreement and submitted my first session.
Half an hour now seems like a lot of time—Astrid spent a mere 24th of
this time with Hiccup. She's now in my top 10 list of masterful coaches, having
helped her client make a shift in 75 seconds—now that's coaching like
a Viking!


 
David Papini, IAC-Practitioner, coach, counselor, trainer, public speaker and
executive, is the founder of Alzaia (http://alzaia.net),
a system he uses to help clients to explore their life experience; getting what
they really want, witnessing how tough and creative a relationship can be, growing
and learning, and co-creating experience on the fly.

7 thoughts on “Coaching a Viking with the IAC Masteries”

  1. ඩේවිඩ්, මම ඔබේ මුල් පිටුවට ගියෙමි (http://alzaia.net/) සහ ඉහත දක්වා ඇති විශ්මයජනක විශ්ලේෂණය ඔබ විසින් ඉදිරිපත් කරන වීඩියෝව සොයා ගත්තේය.
    ඔබට ස්තූතියි, එය Astrid සහ Hiccup දර්ශන දර්ශන දර්ශනය "Viking Viking" පිළිබඳ ඔබේ පැහැදිලි කිරීම සමග ක්රියාකාරීව බලන්න (යූ ​​ටියුබ් දී, http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O8OVzArE7as)!

  2. ඩේවිඩ් - ඔබ මුලින්ම මෙම පුහුණුකරු බ්ලොග් අඩවියට ලියූ මෙම විශාල පුහුණු වැඩමුළුව සඳහා මගේ දෑස් විවෘත කළා. දැන් ඔබ එය IAC පුහුණු මාස්ටර් වෙත පරිවර්තනය කර ඇත. විශිෂ්ට!
    උනන්දුවක් දක්වන ඕනෑම කෙනෙකුට ඔබ Schindler ගේ ලැයිස්තුව ගැන ලියන ලද තවත් බ්ලොග් පෝස්ට් / පුහුණු පාඨමාලා ඇතුළත් කර ඇත. සමහරවිට ඔබ වඩාත් ධෛර්ය සම්පන්නය. 'ඔබට නාසි පුහුණු කළ හැකිද?' මේ තියෙන්නේ: http://www.schoolofcoachingmastery.com/coaching-blog/bid/84866/Can-You-Coach-a-Nazi

  3. හී ඇන්ජලා, ස්තුතියි! ඔබ දන්නවා, පිනිස් සහ ෆර්බ් මගේ උපත හොයාගත්ත නිසා, මම එක එක බලාගෙන ඉන්නවා යෝජනා කරපු නිසා "මම එය කැමති නෑ, එය වැඩිහිටියෙක්"

අදහස් වසා දමා ඇත.