by Martha Pasternack
The “forecast” was for a clear sunny day. Well, it thunder-snowed. In May.
You get my drift. Sometimes the forecast plays out. Sometimes it does not.
When we forecast the results of our coaching and of our client’s manifestation of their goals, as smart as they may be, we are open to “life on life's terms.” If we focus on the result, to the expense of the process and what is happening in the present moment, we may very well miss precious coaching moments. We may miss the opportunity of coaching to reveal the higher potential for our client’s dream. We may overlook the opportunity to empower our clients and their inner resources to weather a storm.
Our vulnerability to get lost in the destination rather than the journey is what brings a tender humanity to our relationships with our clients. As agents of change we can get mesmerized by what that change should look like. A chorus of Angels, a KABOOM or even a BAM does not always herald shifts!
Sometimes the indication of a shift is a quietly exhaled breath that tells us something just happened within our client’s inner sanctum. Here is where deep listening in the present moment becomes one of our other valuable coaching skills.
If what just happened for our client is not on the radar, in the forecast or announced with gusto, and we are not listening, the soul’s song can go unheard. That is not the end of the world, as my mom would say when my childhood world seemed to shatter. Nevertheless it is a missed coaching opportunity that need not go by the wayside.
I am including part of IAC Mastery #4 here for your ease. Take a moment and read it mindfully. It will offer you so much that will support you to develop your masterful coaching.
Focus full attention on the client, processing information at the level of the mind, body, heart and/or spirit, as appropriate. The coach expands the client’s awareness of how to experience thoughts and issues on these various levels, when and as appropriate. The coach utilizes what is happening in the session itself (client’s behavior, patterns, emotions, and the relationship between coach and client, etc.) to assist the client toward greater self-awareness and positive, appropriate action.
Martha Pasternack, MMC www.CircleofLifeCoach.com