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If there is one IAC mastery that, when done ineptly, has the potential to compromise the power of our coaching more than any other, it is Mastery #3 – Engaged Listening. As coaches, we cannot come back often enough to our own development as listeners, recognizing that it is a lifelong journey and a mastery that commands continual focus, reinforcement and subtle upgrading along the way.

My colleague Gary Diggins works with sound therapy, and from his work I’ve learned a lot about the subtlety and refinements of listening. As a musician and master listener, he recognizes three V’s of listening, which apply equally to coaches. The three V’s are:

  1. Verbal listening – to the words being said and the content of the client’s conversation.
  2. Vocal listening – to the tone and volume of what’s being said.
  3. Vibrational listening – to the energy, emotion, expression and bodily signals accompanying what is being said.

These three V’s of listening must be applied first to yourself as coach.

Are you conscious of the words you are using in your questions? Are those words making sense to, and connecting with, your client? Are your words positive, upbeat, full of possibility and future focused? What verbal habits may have crept into your coaching that you need to be aware of and adapt to better effect for your client? If you haven’t done so for a while, you may wish to record some of your coaching conversations, or have a mentor coach listen to your coaching, to identify any subtle upgrades to refine your 口頭 聽著。

Especially when coaching by phone, 聲音的 listening is key. Do you find yourself talking louder, more slowly or more quietly when you are coaching on the phone? Do you sense when your client is reacting to your tone or volume? Sometimes the phone can make us sound a little more monotone than when we are face-to-face with a client. Being aware of your tone of voice, and then flexibly modulating both tone and volume to match the pace and vocality of your client, builds both connection and confidence in the conversation.

Vibrational listening calls on you as a coach to pay close attention to the energy you are taking into the coaching conversation. Very often, as coach, you are providing an anchor for your client’s important conversation. Your energy needs to be solid, grounded, clear and neutral, with a high awareness of your own emotional attachments. It is incumbent upon us as coaches to have regular habits for clearing, grounding and adjusting our own energy, and being aware of how it impacts our clients.

Recognising three V’s in yourself means you can attend to them more clearly for your client and develop your mastery as a listener.

Listening for 口頭 patterns in your client’s language facilitates you asking questions that build on key words they use. Your question becomes a very strong reflection of your client’s own voice and helps them hear themselves more clearly.

Noticing any changes or shifts in the tone or volume of your client’s voice enables you to hear beyond the actual words they are using; you can pick up on what is not being said or what is causing some underlying tension or anxiety, and illuminate key points in the conversation which your client may need you to help them address.

The most powerful moments of vibrational listening can be when you hear extreme highs or lows in your client’s energy. Are you being called on to match that energy, or will your client benefit from you using an opposite and balancing energy to help them move to a different perspective? When your client is highly emotional, for example, you are often called on to hold a very calm vibration, giving your client time to work through the emotion and come back to a place where they can hear a question or choose a helpful course of action.

The art of mastering engaged listening reminds me how much work any Olympic athlete has to do to prepare for their medal event. If we want our clients to achieve gold from their coaching conversation, we as coaches need to continually practice, refine and upgrade our listening. Here are a few ideas for developing a regular listening practice routine and putting yourself on course for gold:

  1. Choose the audio version of the next book you want to read. Notice how you focus on listening to the story instead of reading it visually. What do you notice? What patterns in the author’s language do you hear? Can you listen well enough to repeat back sentences or even paragraphs of what you heard?
  2. Practice a daily silence ritual (anything from 10 minutes to 30 minutes) noticing what you come to hear that you might previously have missed. Compare what’s different when you do a silence practice indoors or outdoors. What do you come to hear that’s new to you? What do you hear in yourself as you sit in the silence?
  3. Choose a musical instrument and play it—whether you’re an expert or not. Listen for the different tones you can hear—you should hear several layers. Also notice the vibration of the instrument and which parts of your body are “hearing” it.
  4. Listen to the news or a television documentary with complete focus and your full attention (don’t be eating dinner or knitting at the same time). What do you hear beyond the words that are being said? What’s the back story that might not be being verbalized? What reactions, assumptions or judgments come up in you as you listen? What questions would you want to ask if you were coaching that person in real life?
  5. Introduce a minute of silence at the start of any conversation or meeting. Use this time for yourself and your client or meeting participants to pause, take a breath and listen for what is ready to be heard.

IAC Mastery #3 requires us to be constantly striving for the gold in our listening. With practice and mastery, your clients will soon be climbing the podium.


Aileen Gibb and Gary Diggins combine music and mastery in their workshops with clients around the globe. Their Destination Coach and Destination Leader workshops equip leaders at all levels in business to create inspired work environments for the future. Full details and dates can be found at www.inspiredfuture.org.